Sex addiction is an intimacy disorder. Family members, especially spouses, experience tremendous pain and betrayal by the sexually addicted person. We are very mindful of the plight of the loved ones of the addict we are treating. Unfortunately, many spouses either don’t know where to go to gain a better understanding of what their husband/wife’s addiction is all about or they experience such shame that they don’t reach out for help for themselves as they try to work through their grief, anger, decisions about the future, etc.
Signs that your spouse may be a sex addict:
Such signs include:
- Unaccounted for time or money
- Emotional withdrawal
- Lack of interest in marital sexual activity
- Abusive behavior
- Keeping a supply of pornography
- Staying up late at night on the computer
- Erasing internet history
- Arguments over sex;
- When you as the spouse feel degraded or emotionally abandoned in and after sex
If you are experiencing:
- Guilt
- Know this: You didn’t cause it
- Responsibility for controlling it
- Know this: You can’t control it
- Responsibility for fixing him/her
- Know this: You can’t cure it